I bet you thought that was a sigh of sadness. Well, you’d be wrong. It’s a sigh of relief.
Things are gonna be just alright.
People always say not to stress over the “small things,” not to worry about it, and look at the big picture. I sometimes found myself saying that to some friends, just reminding them to chin-up and find something good in their situations, but then I feel like a hypocrite when I look at my nephew’s toy that he was trying to fix, and eventually gave up on. I get this horrible sinking feeling when I realize that I haven’t changed the strings on the electric guitar that I was going to play for a show, even though I said I was going to do it the day before the concert. The concert was August 3rd. And, when I look at my dogs and I remember that I haven’t played with them in months, just because I only leave the house for school and work, usually. When I glance at my Xbox and give a second thought that I haven’t even played a session of over an hour in about a month or so, I feel horrible to even consider myself someone who enjoys video games as a regular hobby. When I look in my room, only to see a typewriter that I bought the past summer, and promised I would keep it in good condition, but then think that the last thing I wrote with it was a test of if the ink ribbon was even good. My To-Do List from when I began college is still blank. My guitar amp is still at my friend’s house which I haven’t been to in five weeks. All of these things pile onto one another, and then I realize that the “small things” that people tell you not to worry about only build up over time to make you feel that you’re behind the pace of time, and that you simply don’t have enough of that same time to catch up with it all. Then that becomes your big picture, that you’re just sinking further and further back.
Think about it the next time you want to tell someone not to worry about those things. Instead of telling them that, just give them a hug and tell them that they’ll be okay because that’s all they need to hear when something is seemingly insurmountable. Even if they disagree with the notion of being okay, you didn’t assume that their problems were just easy fixes, or that they could just be set aside. You got down to their level and reassured them, and also said that you’re there as support.